Therapy is an effective way of solving a variety of psychological problems, but only when you have chosen a right therapist. Unfortunately, there are a lot of psychology quacks and their clients don’t dare to stop harmful therapy, just because they don’t know what psychologist’s behavior is unacceptable. Therefore, we have prepared a list of warning signs that you need to switch your therapist. Read and take notes!
Every session is painfully uncomfortable
Therapy isn’t supposed to be a pleasant pastime. It's uncomfortable to talk about uncomfortable things and it’s painful to talk about painful things. But if after every session you’re unusually depressed and feel that you don’t get what you need, it could be a warning signal. Discuss your feelings with your therapist. If he or she refuses to help you work through this discomfort, find another specialist.
Your therapist imposes his/her own views
Every therapist has his or her own system of values. But psychologist's subjective opinion shouldn't interfere with treatment effectiveness. If you’re constantly disagreeing with what your therapist says, this is a serious problem.
Your therapist does not have experience working with your specific challenge
Does anybody go to a dentist to treat a heart attack? Of course, not. What a ridiculous idea! The same is true for therapy. Some psychologists claim that they can help all clients with a wide range of problems, but it’s better to find a psychologist who specializes in your problem area.
Your therapist does not respect your time
Is your therapist often late for meetings with you? Does he or she take calls during your visits or do something else instead of listening attentively to what you say? If your answer is YES, you should stop these sessions. Remember that you have the right to full attention of your therapist.
Your therapist judges you
As a general rule, whatever you discuss with your therapist should not make you feel ashamed or embarrassed. If it seems to you that the psychologist judges you and make you feel guilty, say goodbye. Remember, you pay money for help in solving problems, not for additional suffering.
Your therapist violates personal boundaries
Personal contact between a client and a therapist outside sessions is possible, but this means the completion of the therapy. In another case, if your therapist invites you to go to the cinema or even falls in love with you, it's imperative you seek out another specialist.
You don’t feel a connection with your therapist
Your therapist has a rich experience, respects you and does not try to give you unsolicited advice. Nevertheless, you dislike him or her. It’s OK. It can happen to everyone. There are a lot of psychologists, so you will find the one, who understands how to help you change your life.